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  • How to Help a Loved One After a Miscarriage

    News of pregnancy always comes with mixed emotions. For most couples, there is immediate joy, but that joy is also usually mixed with a bit of worry. And this worry isn’t for nothing as, sadly, one in four pregnancies will end in miscarriage.

    While miscarriages are all-too-common, it doesn’t make dealing with grief and sadness any easier for anyone involved. It can be very difficult for us to know how to respond to a friend or loved one who has recently experienced a miscarriage. I want to share some ideas on how to help a loved one after a miscarriage.

    Understand the Full Picture

    The majority of miscarriages happen in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy. This is when the baby is referred to as, medically speaking, an “embryo.” To the grieving parents, this is much more than an end to an embryo, it is the death of a son or daughter who they have perhaps been trying so hard to have for many years. There are many emotions involved in miscarriage and it’s important to always keep a fuller picture in mind.

    Reassure Her

    Many women feel guilty after a miscarriage. They assume they have done something wrong. Science doesn’t really understand why miscarriages happen. A woman may take excellent care of her health and still experience a miscarriage. It’s important to reassure her that she has done nothing wrong. It’s equally important to let her know that it is okay to grieve.

    Remember the Partner

    Mothers-to-be, for obvious reasons, get much of the attention after a miscarriage. But both male and female partners of these women are hurting as well. Not only have they been hit with the initial loss, but they must also summon extra strength and keep things together while their partner grieves.

    Provide for a Practical Need

    When grieving, it can be very difficult to muster the energy to provide for your practical daily needs such as food. Perhaps bringing over a meal or some snacks for your loved one might convey your care for them and allow them to feel like they are not alone in the grieving process. Bringing over a care package that includes comforting things such as a candle, cozy socks, tea, chocolate, a warm blanket, etc. might also convey care and concern.

    If you or a loved one has suffered a miscarriage and would like to speak to someone about your loss and to work through the grieving process, please reach out to me. I would be more than happy to discuss how I may help.